First dates are crucial to both parties as they have never met before, although using an online dating website does mean you can find out the likes and dislikes of the other person before actually going on a date. It’s also important to know what to talk about and what not to talk about at the first meeting, keep the conversation light and interesting if possible and don’t talk too much about yourself.
So far, so good. It appeals to most people when on a first date to be interested in what the other party says, be curious but not too nosy, talk about subjects that you both know about and not boring topics. Sex is quite a touchy subject especially on a first date, however if you feel comfortable talking about it go ahead but don’t ramble on incessantly. It’s also advisable not to talk about previous sexual encounters or mention any one night stands you’ve had, this obviously won’t create a good impression at all.
Not many men or women like to know about ex-girlfriends or ex-boyfriends initially however as time passes and you start to form a meaningful relationship maybe then is the time to mention previous partners. Do make sure you treat your date as though they are the most special person in your life if you feel the partnership could go one step further, but stay calm and confident at the same time. Other topics to avoid talking about are debt problems, joblessness, wild escapades during your youth or anything that is remotely depressing. A first date is meant to be an exciting and happy occasion so try to engage in interesting and informative conversation making your partner laugh out loud, there’s nothing better than telling a funny, slightly risqué, joke to break the ice.
Blunders to avoid on first dates
Sometimes through nervousness when on a first date men and women have a habit of touching their partners, maybe grabbing an arm or squeezing a knee to initiate the touching process when making a point. Many people misconstrue this as being too forward so try to avoid making this particular blunder on your first date.
Another thing people don’t particularly like is when one party starts to brag about him or herself. This can make the person extremely unattractive and he or she won’t be making a good impression whatsoever, let your date discover for themselves what an interesting and kind-hearted person you truly are, not one who stands on a pedestal for all to admire.
Be positive in all that you say, negative comments lead to heavy, boring conversation and can ruin the entire date. Try and be a little romantic although not too over-bearing, pay compliments and take an active interest in what the other person is saying. This will go a long way into making the entire evening enjoyable and could also lead to further dates if you both click with each other and are on the same wavelength.
Marriage is a definite no no subject, don’t scare off a potential boyfriend or girlfriend by talking about getting married, let nature take its course and if a wedding happens in the future then all well and good. Get to know each other first, don’t spoil what could be a fantastic first date by mentioning marriage or having children.
If your job involves meeting celebrities and stars don’t name drop either, showing off isn’t a good idea, it can be unappealing and shallow to whoever you’re with, religion is also a dodgy subject to talk about especially on a first date so make sure you aren’t over-zealous in making your views known, whatever they may be. Shy away from politics, try and avoid talking about your opinions, which party you support, your views on wars, death sentences and how the country is being run. It could lead to an argument and a disastrous first date, not a good way to start off a relationship.
Don’t be boring
Subjects like antiques, finances, gardening or fashion can be extremely boring for some people, touch on these if you’re interested in them but don’t prolong the conversation so your date is yawning. Everyone has different opinions on spending or saving money, if you have different views from each other things could heat up somewhat, briefly mention how you cope with your finances then leave it. Most females love fashion and everything to do with it whereas some men aren’t in the slightest bit interested at all. Your date doesn’t really want to know how much you spent on the latest designer handbag, a new pair of shoes or a trendy jacket so take into consideration his feelings and keep the conversation about this subject brief.